Right! Let’s get straight into the definition of ‘thoughtscape’. This word means to have a mental or imaginary landscape. We literally carve out our reality, usually untested, based on our perspective. Isn’t it a great way to define our inner thoughts? So, let’s focus on the mental landscape and what that means to our wellbeing – it is the inner dialogue that we battle to dial down – especially when it causes us distress.

Fact: Our inner dialogue is mainly negative. Fact: Our inner dialogue is created from childhood, inculcated in adulthood, and often exacerbated by self-fulfilling prophecies. More psychobabble? Self-fulfilling prophecies are false sets of information that find its way to a moment of truth because it has been allowed to get there e.g., failing an exam because ‘I knew I was an idiot’ versus what actually happened – you didn’t study.

Our mind is powerful, and it will ignite anything – therefore it needs to be controlled. If you truly focus your energies toward the positive, you ignite invincibility. Easy? Nope. Why? That little gnawing voice that causes us to imagine unimaginable outcomes, or that plays out conversations that don’t ever happen… In other words, we plan for scenarios that won’t and don’t occur.

If we don’t control our inner dialogue, automatic thoughts take over in various forms. Here are two ways that our ‘thoughtscape’ works:

1. Negative bias – having a greater focus on negative information. Why do you think news channels do so well? The flip side is optimistic bias (which is a predisposition to expect all things to turn out well); this can lead to positive toxicity. An example of positive toxicity can be losing your job, and someone responds, ‘at least you have your health’. The fact that you haven’t shown empathic concern can be infuriating to the said audience; this is a prime time to shut your mouth and listen; the ego doesn’t always need to be voiced and it isn’t always your responsibility to provide solutions.

2. Counterfactual thinking – imagining what might have been and experiencing intense regret. No, no, no…all choices lead you down a path – positive or negative…there is absolutely no use rehashing what ‘could have been’. Can you imagine what that does to the people in your present life? It primes their thoughtscape to being unworthy of you.

So, here’s the thing. Acceptance of every situation is required. Let’s not argue within our minds or have numerous internal dialogues. Let’s agree on this – choices get you to where you are and therefore, accept that and move away from thoughts around wanted or unwanted situations. Think about good or bad consequences and the choices you made around these. Here’s a negative one – having that extra glass of wine, when you know you shouldn’t and playing with fate by driving and…lo and behold…the police are doing their work and have set up a roadblock and you have been caught. Is it unlucky? Nope…you chose to drink. Here’s a positive situation – planning, including planning for things not to go according to plan…So, it is what it is…isn’t it? Yes.

If you struggle to shut out that inner critic, ‘contemporary control’ may help. Contemporary control gives us an externalised routine, that we use, to drown out the critical inner voice. This routine can be anything and it is guaranteed that most people have them without being fully conscious of them.

Example 1:

Observe your children and their routines – their routines are put in place to quieten their inner voice; it could be fiddling with their hair or touching a toy 3 times. It gives them a sense of comfort and control.

Example 2:

Watch Rafael Nadal’s routine before and during a match. He plays out his routine to give him an internal locus of control – the belief that he has control over his game…and hasn’t he proven it time and time again that he does?

We need to use our inner thoughts to ignite healthy outcomes. This takes an immense amount of practice. We can do this by accepting situations and by controlling the deadly voice in our heads. After all, aren’t you worth it? Yes, you are!

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